Anger is never good and it increases anxiety levels of the individual. When one is angry, the heart pumps a lot more blood than the normal capacity and hence it leads to high blood pressure. This may also cause a heart attack. So always be like the hard working duck, which is calm and composed by its expressions, but paddling like hell at the bottom (to keep itself moving). For human beings this means that, we have to keep moving in life by hard work. Never let disappointment and frustrations rule you. You make your own future and destiny, by following the right attitude.
After all, it' s all in a state of mind. Everyone has two options. One is anger and the other is maintaining your composure4 through patience. I chose the latter one. What have you chosen?
几乎每个人都听过这句有名的习语:愤怒距危险仅一步之遥。这是一句古老的格言,经受住了时间的考验,是正确的论断。愤怒时的所言所行会对许多人和事造成伤害。那种压抑心头的怒火迟早会如火山般喷薄而出。
让我们从基本的角度尝试着予以分析,为什么人会发怒呢?也许是对事情的进展或境况不满意,也许是不愿被带去骑马,或是埋怨生活对他的残忍等等。这些繁杂的琐事就是引发愤怒的原因。当气馁与失败累积到一定程度,忍无可忍时,我们的感情就会如同火山一样喷发出来。愤怒是自我发展的一大障碍,它会使我们的视野狭隘。当心灵充斥着愤怒和傲慢的情绪时,便没有逻辑性和公正性可言。
愤怒可以达到某种目的,但并不适合所有情况。其原因是,随着年龄的增长,你有责任去调整自己的情绪,抑制挫败感。没有人有那种远见和能力,能判断出扰乱你心绪的因素或是让你为困境烦忧的原因所在。经常发怒的人难成大事,而懂得这个道理的人则容易获得成功。
培养耐心是抑制愤怒的最好方法。有耐心的人就意味着他心智的成熟,似一匹勇敢的战马可以超越愤怒。他可以随时控制自己的情绪,并采取最有效的方法摆脱困境。这样的人总会平心静气地去享受生活。
愤怒有百害而无一益,且会增添个人的忧虑。一个人愤怒时,心脏泵出的血比平常要多,且容易导致高血压,还可能导致心脏病。所以你要像勤劳不辍的鸭子那样,冷静而沉着,却要拼命地划水,好像自己陷于地狱深处。这对于人来说就是要始终努力工作改变生活。永远也不要让失望和沮丧左右你的情绪。你可以用正确的态度,来决定自己的命运和未来。
总之,这一切都由你的心境所决定。每个人都面临两个选择,一个是愤怒,另一个是耐心地保持冷静。我选择后者,你呢?
生活寄语
Five Simple Rules
佚名 / Anonymous
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred;
2. Free your mind from worries;
3. Live simply;
4. Give more;
5. Expect less.
No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
God didn' t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow1, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.
Disappointments are like road humps2, they slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards3.
Don' t stay on the humps too long. Move on!
When you feel down because you didn' t get what you wanted, just sit tight4 and be happy because God is thinking of something better to give you.
When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means. There' s a purpose to life' s events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.
You can' t make someone love you, all you can do is being someone who can be loved, and the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.
The measure of love is when you love without measure.
In life there are very rare chances that you' ll meet the person you love and loves you in return. So once you have it don' t ever let go, the chance might never come your way again.
记住如下五条简单的快乐法则:
1.让心灵从憎恨中解脱;
2.让情绪从焦虑中解脱;
3.简单地生活;
4.更多地付出;
5.更少地期待。
没有人能回到过去,重新开始,但谁都可以从现在开始,开创一个崭新的未来。
上帝并未承诺我们没有痛苦的日子,没有悲伤的欢笑,没有雨天的阳光,但是他给予了我们生活的力量,安慰着我们痛苦的心灵,也照亮了我们前行的方向。
失望就像人生道路上的山丘,它们使你前行的脚步迟缓,但是,一旦越过它们,你便踏上了坦途。
不要在山丘上停留太久。继续前进!
当你为得不到渴求的东西而沮丧时,请坚持你的渴求,并快乐地等待,因为上帝正在考虑让更好的事降临到你头上。
不论发生什么事,不管是好是坏,思考它的意义吧。生活的目的是教会你如何开心更多、伤心更少。
你不能强求他人爱上你。你只能力求做一个值得别人爱的人,剩下就看他人如何认可你的价值了。
权衡爱的标准就是毫无条件地去爱。
生活中,遇到你爱的并且爱你的人并不容易,因而,一旦遇到了,请一定要珍惜,这样的机会不可能有第二次。
为你所爱的人放弃自己的骄傲要比为了骄傲而失去你所爱的人好得多。
我们花太多的时间去寻找真爱,去挑剔爱人的缺点。事实上,我们应全身心地为爱付出。
当你真正在乎一个人时,你就不会对他吹毛求疵,不会找原因,也不会挑他的过错。相反,你会原谅他的过错,接受他的缺点,忽略他的借口。
不要与老朋友断绝往来,没有人能够替代他。要知道,友谊如酒,越久越醇。
父亲的馈赠
Inspiration from A Drainpipe
约翰·G.李夫人/Mrs. John G. Lee
I think the most profound influence in my life was my father. He was an inventor and a scientist with a most inquisitive mind. He loved and was greatly stimulated by the beauty and the design he found in nature. He believed in people and was himself a completely honest person. His sense of humor was keen though kindly and his energy was inexhaustible1. Once he was asked how he got the idea for the Maxim Silencer. He answered,"By watching the way water behaved when it went down a drain." This simple statement opened up for me a whole realm of ideas which led to a firm belief that human intelligence need recognize no bounds; that through the use of our intelligence we will move progressively close to an understanding of man and of the universe around us; that this knowledge will bring a closer harmony2 between man and his surroundings; and that this way lies the chance to make the world a better place to live in.
Then I remember sitting with him on the desk of his boat one night in early September. We were anchored in a seclude cove. The breeze was light and very salty. We could hear across a little strip of land the pounding of the surf. The stars were brilliant and every now and them a shooting star would streak across the sky. He was deeply interested in astronomy and he led my mind into unforgettable speculation3 as we explored the grandeur of that night. I think from this I came to understand that there must be law and order in our universe. There is design. Man can observe, he can learn to understand, he can apply. The secret is to apply in the interests of the common good; not for one or for a few; not to destroy but to build for all peoples.
My mother and father each had an acute social conscience. They believed that because good fortune had endowed them with better than average opportunity, they had a duty to perform in their communities. From this no doubt came my own conviction that I must give more than I receive and that a satisfactory life must be measured by its usefulness to others.