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第47章 思想的守望者 (14)

那虚假的笑容呢?那是不可能欺骗任何人的。我们都知道那种笑是机械的,我们厌恶它。我所要谈的是真诚的、暖人心房的、发自内心的微笑,它是人际关系中的无价之宝。

密歇根大学的心理学家詹姆斯?麦克奈尔教授表达了他对微笑的看法:“面带微笑的人们会在管理、教学和营销方面卓有成效,也会培养出心情愉悦的孩子。微笑比蹙眉能更好地传达信息。这就是为什么在教育上奖励要比惩罚更有效的原因。”

一位纽约超市的人事经理对我说,她宁愿聘用一个没有学历但有着舒适微笑的人,也不愿聘用一个满面冰霜的哲学博士。

微笑的力量是巨大的——即使它是无形的。遍布全美的电话公司有一个叫“电话力量”的项目,就是要求员工用电话来销售他们的服务和产品。在此项目中,公司建议员工在打电话时要面带微笑。你的“微笑”会通过你的声音传递给客户。

美国一家大型橡胶公司的董事长告诉我,他通过观察发现,除非对自己所做的事有兴趣,否则人们很难获得成功。这位商业巨头对于“努力是通向成功之门的唯一钥匙”这句古语并不赞同。他说:“我所认识的一些人,他们的成功是因为做了自己感兴趣的工作。后来,他们对工作渐渐没了兴趣,于是生意萧条了,最终失败了。”

如果你希望他人在见到你时心情是愉悦的,那你也必须在见到他们时心情是愉悦的。

1. Actions speak louder than , and a smile says , “ I like you, you make me . I am glad to see you.” That is_________dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump_________of their skins. So, naturally, we are_________to see them.

2. “ what you and I would do, of course; he smiled_________at the baby. Soon he struck up a conversation with the_________about her baby and his grandchildren, and soon the entire reception room joined in, and the boredom and tension were converted into a_________and enjoyable experience.”

1. 一个人的面部表情要比他身上的衣服重要得多。

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2. 我所认识的一些人,他们的成功是因为做了自己感兴趣的工作。

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3. 如果你希望他人在见到你时心情是愉悦的,那你也必须在见到他们时心情是愉悦的。

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1. ...he struck up a conversation with the woman about her baby and his grandchildren...

strike up:开始演奏;使开始;建立起

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2. ...a woman who had inherited money, was eager to make a pleasing impression on everyone.

be eager to:盼望、渴望要做

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常怀感恩之心

Be Grateful to Life

佚名 / Anonymous

Once President Roosevelt’s house was broken into and lots of things were stolen. Hearing this, one of Roosevelt’s friends wrote to him and advised him not to take it to his heart so much. President Roosevelt wrote back immediately, saying, “Dear friend, thank you for your letter to comfort me. I’m all right now. I think I should thank God. This is because of the following three reasons: firstly, the thief only stole things from me but did not hurt me at all; secondly, the thief has stolen some of my things instead of all my things; thirdly, most luckily for me, it was the man rather than me who became a thief...”

It was quite unlucky for anyone to be stolen from. However, President Roosevelt had such three reasons to be so grateful. This story tells us how we can learn to be grateful in our life.

Being grateful is an important philosophy of life and a great wisdom. It is impossible for anyone to be lucky and successful all the time so long as he lives in the world. We should learn how to face failure or misfortune bravely and generously and to try to deal with it. If so, should we complain about our life and become frustrated and disappointed ever since then or should we be grateful for our life, rise again ourselves after a fall? William Thackeray, a famous British writer, said, “Life is a mirror. When you smile in front of it, it will also smile and so will it when you cry to it.” If you are grateful to life, it will bring you shining sunlight. If you always complain about everything, you may own nothing in the end. When we are successful, we can surely have many reasons for being grateful, but we have only one excuse to show ungratefulness if we fail.

I think we should even be grateful to life whenever we are unsuccessful or unlucky. Only by doing this can we find our weakness and shortcomings when we fail. We can also get relief and warmth when we are unlucky. This can help us find our courage to overcome the difficulties we may face, and receive great impetus to move on. We should treat our frustration and misfortune in our life in the other way just as President Roosevelt did. We should be grateful all the time and keep having a healthy attitude to our life forever, keep having perfect characters and enterprising spirit. Being grateful is not only a kind of comfort, not an escape from life and nor thinking of winning in spirit like Ah Q. Being grateful is a way to sing for our life which comes just from our love and hope.

When we put a small piece of alum into muddy water, we can see the alum can soon make the water clear. If each of us has an attitude of being grateful, we’ll be able to get rid of impulse, upset, dissatisfaction and misfortune. Being grateful can bring us a better and more beautiful life.

美国总统罗斯福的家曾经失窃,财物损失严重。朋友闻此消息,就写信安慰他,劝他不必把这件事放在心上。罗斯福总统很快回信说:“亲爱的朋友,谢谢你来信安慰我,我一切都很好。我想我应该感谢上帝,因为:第一,我损失的只是财物,人却毫发未损;第二,我只损失了部分财物,而非所有财产;第三,最幸运的是,做小偷的是那个人,而不是我……”

对任何人来说,家中失窃绝非幸事。但是,罗斯福总统却能找到三个感恩的理由。这个故事告诉我们:生活中,我们应该学会感恩。

感恩是一项重要的处世哲学,是生活的大智慧。人生在世,不可能事事顺通。对于各种失败和不幸,我们要豁达大度,勇敢地面对失败和不幸,并想办法解决。面对困难,我们是懊恼抱怨、沮丧气馁、陷入绝望,还是对生活满怀感恩之心,跌倒后再爬起来呢?英国著名作家威廉?萨克雷说过:“生活是一面镜子,你对它笑,它也会对你笑;你对它哭,它也会对你哭。”如果对生活感恩,你的生活将充满灿烂的阳光;如果一味怨恨,终将一无所获。我们成功时,有千万个理由感恩生活;而失败时,只要一个借口就会表现出忘恩负义。

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