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第33章 通往成功的第一步 (5)

一个人要成为一名领导者,就必须具备这样的品质:有正义感、有判断力、可信任、积极主动、有主见、机智干练、诚实、热情、自信稳重、大公无私、有勇有胆、见识广博、忠心耿耿。也许你已经具备了这样的品质,但是不知道如何将这些品质运用到管理工作中去。这些品质在你的天性中占据的比例越大,你的生活就越成功。就某种程度而言,这些素质都是必须具备的。

领导能力是可以通过学习获得的,这一观点与人们普遍认为的有所不同。没有人生来就是领导。我们在上面列出了所有领导者需要具备的品质——只是有些人不愿选择而已。当然,并非每个人都能成为“顶级人物”,就更不用说永远保持优势了。然而,每个人在某一方面都一定拥有领导的潜力——只是需要行动!

要知道,学习是生活中的现实任务——学骑车、学驾驶、学打字、学算术,等等。所有这些活动都需要行动。尽管我们生来就具有很多不同的才能,但是如果我们不能使用并培养它们,那么,这些才能永远也不会创造出成果。

青年时期是开始培养领导品质的黄金时期。花时间详细地学习每一种品质,将这些品质应用到与他人的实际交往中。了解自己的弱项,并尽力去弥补改进。仔细观察每个领导,看看他们是如何处理问题,保持自我风度的。并且,还要研究伟大领导者的生活。付出所换来的成果足够你终生受用了。

pout [paut] v. 撅嘴;板着脸;不高兴

The little girl would pout and say: "I'm not a little girl anymore."

小女孩会把嘴一撅,说道:“我已经不是小丫头了。”

characteristic [,k鎟kt'ristik] n. 特征;特性;特色

Offenses with this characteristic usually will be encountered as

assimilative crimes.

带有此特征的犯罪行为通常被视为同等犯罪。

integrity [in'terti] n. 正直;诚实;廉正

To maintain the integrity of the whole, these available choices are

reciprocal ones.

为保持整体的完整性,这些可用的选择是相对的。

capacity [k'p鎠iti] n. 能力;容量;容积

Every moving object has the capacity to do work.

每一个运动的物体都具有做功的本领。

无论是目前的生活,还是未来要面对的世界,具备领导素质是对一个人的基本要求。

领导能力是可以通过学习获得的,这一观点与人们普遍认为的有所不同。

青年时期是开始培养领导品质的黄金时期。

How you live your teen years will have a profound impact on the rest of your life.

have an impact on:对于……有影响;对……造成冲击

Contrary to popular opinion, leadership is something that is learned.

contrary to:与……相反;违反

让教训不要重复出现

A Lesson Is Repeated Until Learned

佚名 / Anonymous

Have you ever noticed that lessons tend to repeat themselves? Does it seem as if you married or dated the same person several times in different bodies with different names? Have you run into the same type of boss over and over again? If you don' t deal well with authority figures at home, then you will have an opportunity to deal with them out in the world. You will continually draw into your life people who need to enforce authority, and you will struggle with them until you learn the lesson of obedience.

You will continually attract the same lesson into your life. You will also draw to your teachers to teach you that lesson until you get it right. You may try to avoid the situation, but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and learn the lessons that they offer. To face these challenges means you need to accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue, though that situation or relationship may be very painful.

The challenge, therefore, is to identify and release the patterns that you are repeating. This is no easy task, since it means you have to change, and change is not always easy. Staying just as you are may not help you advance spiritually, but it certainly is comfortable in its familiarity.

Rising to the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns forces you to admit that the way you have been doing things isn' t working. The good news is that by identifying and releasing the pattern, you actually learn how to change. In order to facilitate your process of change, you will need to learn the lessons of willingness and patience. Once you master these, you will most likely find the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns far less intimidating.

The real secret to being able to change is the willingness to do so. If you are to make any progress in excavating yourself from the cycles that entrap you, you must first identify the patterns that keep you stuck. Then you can begin to release the old behaviors.

If you truly want to change, you will choose to do it, and make a commitment to the process of it. However, if you rely on the thought that you should change, you will make the decision to do so and then you will feel the pinch of sacrifice. Following the current trends, the advice of friends, or the wishes of family members result in decision; following you inner compass results in choice.

So when you are struggling to make a change in your life, ask yourself, "How willing am I, really, to make this change?" If you are not succeeding, there' s a good chance that you may be relying on your belief that you should change, rather than on your intrinsic desire to do so.

Patience is the display of tolerance while awaiting an outcome. You are presented with the lesson of patience the moment you try to create a change within yourself. You expect immediate results and are often disappointed when your first few attempts to follow through fall short. When people who try to lose weight cheat on their diets, they get very frustrated with themselves for not being able to stay with their new eating regime and berate themselves for not changing their patterns.

As you already know, change is rarely easy, and you need to exercise gentleness and patience with yourself as you work your way through this process. Growth can be a slow, painstaking process and patience will provide you with the stamina you need to become the person you want to be.

If you absolutely hate getting stuck in traffic, chances are that you need a little work in the area of patience. And, chances are, you will probably get stuck in more traffic jams than someone who has no issue with patience—and not simply because the universe has a sense of humor. You sill just notice the traffic more than someone who has more patience.

Remember, a lesson will be repeated until learned. It just takes a little patience.

你是否曾注意到,生活中的教训总是重复出现。这看起来是不是就像与你结婚或多次约会的始终是同一个人,只不过是身材和名字不同罢了呢?你是否曾多次遇到类型相似的老板呢?如果你无法同家中的掌权者处理好关系,那么,你在外面的世界同样会遇到这种状况。你的生活会不断地陷入强权者的控制中,而且,你会一直与之对抗,直到学会服从为止。

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